Divorce

Divorce will bring up many required changes in your routine in regard to legal, parental, financial, emotional, and practical aspects. Separation and divorce can be extremely emotional and challenging for all parties. Equilibrium may take several years to achieve after marriage dissolution, especially for the children. It is possible to maintain or build a healthy relationship with your former spouse. My goal is to empower you to be kind and compassionate to yourself during this time. I will provide you with tools to relax, speak with your children, and keep calm in stressful situations, like court. We will work together to create a plan and behavioral patterns that will allow you to be self-sufficient during this transition.

Cooperation, Communication and Mediation

The end of a marriage typically results in surge of negative emotions.  These can include anger, grief, anxiety and fear. Sometimes these feelings erupt when least expected. This may stun the individual and catch them at a low moment. Responses such as the ones mentioned above, are normal.  In most cases, and over time, the intensity of these feelings will become weaker and weaker.. As the person is moving through this process, it is important to be kind.. Researchers have found that individuals who are compassionate, allow for mistakes, have an easier time with the daily difficulties of divorce.

Divorce is not a battle with winners and losers. It is the legal break-up of a marriage that has not succeeded. Recently, many couples are turning to divorce mediation as an alternative to a courtroom and legal proceedings. Trying to resolve issues with the soon to be ex-spouse can be frustrating and seldom result in a satisfactory arrangement.  Often the problems that contributed to divorce re-emerge during mediation and negotiations. Research shows that mediation with a third objective person can be beneficial for emotional needs, relationships with the spouse and address the children’s needs.

Many people feel that speaking with the soon-to-be-ex-spouse is a low priority.  Even so, communication can make divorce healthier for all parties involved. The goal of divorce mediation is to reach a mutual agreement and make coordinated decisions with a minimum of conflict.

When Kids Are Involved

Separation and divorce are some of the most traumatic experiences for children at any age.  In most circumstances the children have bonded with both parents. However, some research suggests that the majority of children adjust well within a two year period. In contrast, children experience more problems when parents remain in high-conflict marriages.  During separation, mediation and divorce, parents can assist the children with the transition. Most important is to keep the children away from any open conflict.